b"The Great Eastern Mail JANUARY 13, 2023 09crossword advice - ask EmmaACROSS1. Petrol in US5. Turkish capital9. Spanning (gap)10. Ontario city12. Slyest13. Immobile14. Red gem16. Filthier19. Transmission casing21. End, . up24. Cave-dwelling monster25. Alpine landslide27. Rescue team, . party28. Superficial (4-4)29. Shoulder wraps30. Flattered to excessPhoto: INGIMAGEDOWN On the edge1. Return (2,4)2. Ringlet curve3. Illumination4. Convent6. Nourishment7. Scholar8. Plug converters11. Fawn's father Emma Woodcock is a Registered Counsellor working with 15. Baby's . cord adolescents and adults with a broad range of difficulties, including 17. Arrogant people anxiety, depression, PTSD, stress, self-esteem difficulties, amongst 18. Wide view many others. With experience in several evidence-based therapy 20. Skeleton image (1-3) modalities, Emma utilises skills from CBT, ACT, DBT, motivational 21. Hit hard interviewing, polyvagal therapy and more. Emma offers a practical 22. Pronunciation style approach to therapy, helping clients develop a personal 'toolkit of 23. Stole a look strategies and skills, so that they feel empowered to deal with lifes 26. Declare void challenges everyday.Emma Woodcockdown more than we realise.Many of the distortions Fill the grid so that every column, every rowsudoku Counsellor It keeps others travellingmentioned here are and every 3x3 box contains the numbers 1 to 9. alongside us happy, but itinvalidating. Minimizing, Q: Dear Emma, whatsnever accomplishes what weself-criticism, suppression, DIFFICULTY: HHHHH 3046 DIFFICULTY: HHHHH 3047 going with my emotions?need to for ourselves. denialthey are all coping SOLUTIONS CAN BEFOUND ON PAGE 19I used to be able hold inSo how might you learnmechanisms we use to so much but now, I feelto climb to the peak andprotect ourselves from hurt. limited. After spendingdescend the other side? But it doesnt work. Were so much time with peopleWith practice. Like alljust pushing it down until over the holidays I thinkthings, it takes practice towe explode like a volcano. Im going to explode if onelearn. Allow the emotion toAnd in the process, hurting more person complains totake time, dont rush yourself.ourselves the most. This type me or tells me how to doGo compassionately and withof thinking means we never something. I hate beingacceptance. Find supportreach the peak. We have like this, but I just want toif you can, co-regulation isplaced too many barriers in scream. Can you pleaseallowed. That is someoneour way with the cognitive help me? to sit with you in the thickdistortions, stopped and of your emotions. Andturned back down.A: Just do it. Scream. Grabimportantly bring awarenessTo reach the peak, we need a pillow and scream intoto the story you tell yourselfto tend to ourselves with it. Or take a drive to someas you climb. Too muchcompassion as we climb. word find - Summertime Fun beautiful remote locationcautioning can cause fear toYour feelings matter and are and scream at the top ofmount which will prohibitallowed to be present. You your lungs. Release all thatyou from reaching the peak.are allowed to take up space C S W S F I H N G I B S N S E J you are holding. It soundsRemember, as you comein this world. Emotions are like its been a lot for you.down the other side, youimportant. They help us J C E T G O K N A C N E E E L I Now, the scream is only thewill be able to understandnavigate life but giving us beginning. You also must doyourself in a deeper way ascrucial pieces of information. H E S U L N I J V E F O E I B S the hard work of processing.you accept and reflect on theThey are not right or wrong. I suspect up until now, youemotion you have navigated.How we let them inform us have been busy suppressingHeres what a practicalor shape our story is up to us. N Z T I C M O D G C Z T R N Y L your own needs and desires.example may sound like: A simple way to explore the Processing is always greaterThought: OMG, why thenew perspective might be to W V D S M E B H I R N I C N Z B than suppressing.hell am I feeling this way? Iacknowledge the presence of Imagine if you will, a largeam so frustrated. This is sothe emotion and ask yourself N A D I K J B E T E W U S U B Q mountain before you. Asridiculous; I cant even usewhat another way is of your eyes travel upwards,this stupid remote. My mumviewing this situation.Y R W L M I O R Q A B Q N S A R the greenery gives waywas right, Im dumb, I cantSo, what might the to a barren landscape ofeven do a simple task likethought in the example B S B E A C H S A M O S U K O N boulders and its peak isturn this TV on. Look at me,sound like if you were to go tipped with snow. You arecant even turn a TV on withcompassionately and reach D R A G O R E A F B A O S A Q D about to embark on a journeythis new technology. My life isthe peak to descend the other climbing this mountain.a waste. What a loser! side? Now, your emotions areLets break it down. There'Wow, I can feel myself F I S H I N G L E C T M D V B A like a mountain climber. Inare some common cognitivegetting frustrated right order to fully process ourdistortions here that prohibitnow. That makes sense. R C J E K U O C R E A T C C L K emotions, we must climb tosuccessful mountainTechnology has often been the peak and descend. If youclimbing. a sore spot for me. And I E H D L O A U N S L R M I J J L only climb part way, stopOMG, why the hell amhave had a lot of people and and go back down, that isI feeling this way? =change of routine around me G K K V T B R G C I O N P F C B more like suppression. YourSuppression.over the holidays. Im going emotion is still present. YouThis is ridiculous =to take a deep breath so it E Y O S H V J K P N C O I I Y F have not completed your taskInvalidating. will be easier to stay calm. I set before you because youMy mum was right, Immight even go for a walk now G M K Q Z X I U Y I Z V P V N S didnt reach the peak anddumb = Over-analysing. instead.'descend the other side. I cant even do a simpleAll the best, Emma.Sometimes in the name oftask like turn this TV on = E N I H S N U S P Y T T A H G G politeness, social behaviourSelf-critical. Got a question you want and people pleasingMy life is a waste =Emma to answer? Can you find the following words? tendencies, we might do thisCatastrophising Email Emma:stopping and going backWhat a loser = Minimising. advice.gem@gmail.comHOLIDAY BEACH POOL BOATSUNSHINE CAMPING SUNSCREEN FLOATS Ask Emma is for informational purposes only, and is not a substitute for professional medical advice, BARBECUES ICE-CREAM PICNIC HAT diagnosis, or treatment. 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